Anonymous asked: hello mate, it's the same anon as before, i'd rather not come off anon because i am not out. i know next to nothing about anything trans related, i just know i am male in a female body. i have some questions i'm just going to ask, any answers would be greatly appreciated. how do i do i make my chest appear flat? how did you come out? how can i get my friends to call me my chosen name and he/his? how can i get my mum to believe me? i'm 20 is it too late to transition? thanks.
Okay, well I will try my best to answer your questions. To make ones chest appear smaller most people bind. The safest way to do this is to buy a binder, you can get them from underworks, t-kingdom, les-loveboat, and I do believe there are other places their all online though so, if you’re not out that could be a problem. You may also find people on tumblr who are selling binders at a ruduced price (I’ve gotten both mine seccond hand and they work fine) or are just giving them away. If you have kinda a small chest, you could try, 2 sports bra’s , one that is the proper size and then put one that is a sive too small over it. DO NOT EVER USE TAPE OR CLING WRAP. Ace bandages should only be a last resort, because they can really hurt you, I used them for like 5 years and my ribs are pretty much recked. I came out to my boyfriend first, via msn because I was too scared to tell him, the same with 3 of my close friends. I just told my mom that I’m a boy, and I’ve tried discussing it with her, however she does not want to hear anything about it. I came out to my instuctor at college and she was aces with it, my other instructer refused to call me my prefered name and was all in all an asshole about it. Those are really the only people that know, because I’ve been forbid to tell anyone else. You can just do it face to face, or write a letter, only you can gague how the person will best deal when confronted with this situation. A letter is good because it lets you get everything out there without being inturupted. The chosen name and pronouns question, I’m not so sure about because my friends have been awsome with calling me a nickname and he pretty much ever since I told them, they just kinda switched themselves. So I guess you could just ask them, in a polite way if they could call you “name” and refer to you as he/his, just tell them that it’s important to you, and that if they could make their best attempt at it then that would really mean alot to you. Sadly there isn’t really a way to make your mother believe you, however even parents that don’t like the idea of having a trans* child eventually come around somewhat. You really just have to give them time, however try to make her as imformed as possible, bring it up everynow and then, gague how she’s dealing with it, let her watch some transguy vlogs on youtube. It’s never too late to trasition, some guys don’t until they’re 40 or 50, or even later. If you’re ready now, and have the funds, then go for it. Also as a side note, hudsonsftmguide is a good resource, for binding, packing, passing, t, surgery, pretty much everything. Goodluck, and if there’s anything else I’m always kickin around. Hope this helped.
Cheers.
